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Make the Law of Attraction in Dating Work For You | Delray Beach, FL

I recently worked with a divorced man who was disillusioned about ever meeting a woman who wasn’t looking for a “sugar daddy”. He had recently ended a relationship with a woman whom he said primarily viewed him as a “dinner daddy”. In his online dating, he felt that he kept meeting women with similar mentalities. Often, his anger would surface, and he would then say something inappropriate. I reminded him that most of these women were probably hurt too. We then did some hypnosis. I invited him to “sit back and relax right now”. I went on to suggest:

“Close your eyes. And prepare to go inside for a few minutes of meditation. I’d like to invite you to listen to the meaning behind my voice. Listen to my words and allow your own mind to create associations that are meaningful to you. When you think about your experience, there are times when anger is justified and then there are times when anger just fuels a fire that should be put out. 

You have been meeting women who might be classified as “gold diggers”. And you have gotten ramped up. And angry. Because they signify what it is that you detest. You give them the power to anger you. You may believe that because a woman is attractive, she is able to get things for free. BUT NOTHING IS FOR FREE. 

When you focus on what such a woman seems to get, you fail to see what she misses. It would be beneficial for you to see what such a woman fails to get. 

A woman who is primarily driven to get taken to a fancy dinner. To get free luxury travel, and gifts. What is it that she does not have? What is it that you have that such a woman doesn’t? 

How valuable is self-respect? How valuable is a real man’s respect? 

When a person’s values are shallow, they probably don’t believe in God. Or even kindness. They probably don’t have time to care for a pet like a dog or a cat. They probably don’t have patience. They’re shallow. And they are most likely miserable creatures who are angry most of the time because if they don’t get what they want immediately, they then feel. Deprived. 

To live like that. To be all about what they can get, leaves no time to nurture a soul – Their soul or someone else’s.

When you think of what’s important to you, you think of Love. Loyalty. Companionship. Connection. Of course, you covet beauty. You deserve to be with a woman who’s attractive. You take care of yourself. And so should the woman that you desire. But when a woman is only thinking about material things, what she can get, she becomes ugly. Eventually she may get too much plastic surgery. 

If she eats and drinks too much, she will probably get flabby and too fat. And then she’s no longer attractive. And if she is impatient and bitchy, she’s miserable. This is not whom you want as a long term partner.

So, meditate on the kind of woman you’d like to have and love as your soulmate. What would such a woman bring to your life?

Clearly, you want attractive. But what else? Warmth. Kindness. Compassion. Empathy. Consideration. Communication. Wisdom. Intelligence. Athleticism.

Open your mind. Have flexibility. Acceptance. These are all the things that you know you want. So why waste your time, your precious time with women who cannot give you these things?

A jackal cleans things up by eating everything. Always on the hunt. Hunting for weaker animals. For waste. What a waste. Don’t waste your precious time.

Be strong. Why waste your time with people who are energy suckers? 

You want to meet a woman who is innocent? Who is honest? Who is pure? One who has good values? In order to meet such a woman, you need to set your intentions on it. When you intend to meet a woman like that, such a woman shall come along. She’ll come around. It is the Universal Law of Attraction.

Law of attraction says that you attract what you expect. What you think about.

And you know that when you get angry at someone you have just met, that anger is based on what you expect and do not get. And primarily thinking about what you don’t want, you get that – what you primarily think about. So, turn on your signal detectors to pick up the signal, the wavelength of a woman who has a soul.

Think about that type of woman. And refuse to think about all the other types of women that you don’t want to be with anyway.

And you will meet the right woman one day. Sooner than you think. That is, when you program your signal detector with the right woman’s wavelength – the wavelength of a woman with soul. And totally tune out the wavelengths of other types of women who are not for you.

You can do it. Tune into the frequency of who you want to meet a get to know. That’s what you want. You have the ability. Put your anger where it belongs. Put it in a place where it will stay until it’s needed. And it’s not needed when you talk to strangers. It’s not needed when you talk to acquaintances.

There’s a time and a place for anger. And most of the time, it is not the time. And not the place. Now meditate on that. And when you’ve meditated on this and you are satisfied that you’ve meditated for long enough for now, you can come back to a waking state. And open your eyes. And feel settled and strong and decisive and unafraid.  GOOD WORK.”

My patient left that session and met a wonderful woman that Christmas. What a lovely Christmas present!

For over 30 years, I have helped thousands of single patients who struggled with the dating world master their anxiety, anger and depression so they could eventually meet their soul mate. If you would like to learn more about my practice, or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Palm Beach, Lake Worth, Wellington, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Pompano Beach, Parkland, Coral Springs, Hallandale, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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The Core of Psychotherapy | Delray Beach, FL

The core of psychotherapy is examining why you keep getting what you don’t want and are not getting what you think you want from people. Different schools of therapy use different terms to describe this core issue. Behavioral therapists talk about what you inadvertently reinforce through your actions or inactions. On the other hand, psychoanalytically oriented therapists (i.e., those following Freudian approaches) talk about unconscious conflicts. However, no matter your therapist’s theoretical orientation, a good therapist will eventually address your core issue. 

In my approach to doing therapy, I like to eventually figure out what your “core conflictual relationship theme”, or “CCRT”, is. We all have a CCRT. In fact, we all have multiple CCRTs. But we all have one CCRT that lies at the root of most of our problematic issues, no matter who we are. Of course, that core CCRT is different for each of use. A good therapist eventually will help you to discover your core CCRT.  

In a nutshell, the parts of a CCRT are a Wish (i.e., what you want), what you Expect to get, how you Act given what you expect to get or not get, and how you React or Respond to what you do get or don’t get. A useful acronym to remember this dynamic sequence is WEAR. I like this acronym because we all wear our expectations on our bodies in one way or another. Here is one example from a recent session I had with a patient. 

This patient wantsher daughter to respect her. She expects that her daughter will continue to act disrespectfully given their history together. Nevertheless, this patient continues to actin ways that reinforce her daughter’s continued disrespect. And to make matters worse for her, my patient’s response to being disrespected by her daughter further reinforces her daughter’s disrespectful behavior.  Our sessions have been focused on helping the patient understand this dynamic which is her Core Conflictual Relation Theme or CCRT with the goal of helping her modify it. 

Unfortunately, our CCRTs are largely unconscious. So, as your therapist, I would first help you recognize your CCRT. Once we both recognize your CCRT, our job is to work together to understand your CCRT. And once we understand it, our job is to work together to change this CCRT in a realistic way so you can have a better life. More on this approach to how I do therapy in a future blog entry.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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Understanding Panic Disorder and How Hypnotherapy Can Help | Boca Raton, FL

Panic, at its most basic level, is a reaction to stimuli that set off an alarm in the subconscious. Historically, it may have kept hunters and gatherers alive, but today someone can become panicked about any number of things that are not a threat to survival; the modern world is stimulating! Many people experience at least one panic attack in their lifetimes. Having a panic attack differs from having a panic disorder in that in the latter, panic attacks are triggered multiple times unpredictably. 

Panic disorder is the persistent experience of living in fear of another attack. While breathing will help the person experiencing a panic attack, it does little to help someone cope with, and move beyond, their panic disorder.

Hypnotherapy reduces the likelihood that someone may experience a panic attack by uncovering the subconscious reasons why it’s happening in the first place. When we work together, we will begin to unravel your unique behavioral patterns and responses that are triggered under stress. From there, we will work to replace those with an appropriate response. This allows you to gain control of your subconscious, making stressors less overwhelming over time as you practice my methods in daily life.

If you would like to learn more about this practice or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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Truly Quit Smoking: The Power of Hypnotherapy | Boca Raton, FL

You may have heard of someone developing an oral fixation; examples include chewing on a blade of grass or smoking a cigarette. When a person is addicted to nicotine, they develop a genuine physical and mental dependence on it. Distancing oneself from activities like vaping and smoking becomes more difficult over time as a result.

Nicotine patches, going cold turkey, slowly reducing your daily cigarette count- these are all perfectly normal avenues to consider and test along your journey. Hypnotherapy can also be a powerful tool to help someone overcome their nicotine addiction and/or oral fixation.

When your conscious and unconscious mind begins to interact through hypnotherapy, that is when you will stop smoking, feel less stressed, and experience little to no withdrawal symptoms. Our habits are controlled by the subconscious mind, and hypnotherapy taps into your subconscious to unlock lasting change.

Dr. Eimer feels the following are essential to the process, and are what anyone who really wants to quit smoking needs:

  • A compelling, emotionally valid reason
  • Understanding the effects of cigarettes on your health
  • Comprehending the consequences of continuing the habit
  • Recognizing the benefits of being a non-smoker
  • Skills for managing the stress of quitting and managing any symptoms of withdrawal

The best results come from having a powerful individualized live session, however, Dr. Eimer authored the Best Stop Smoking With Hypnosis Program available for purchase here. 

If you would like to learn more about this practice or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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Helping Couples Rekindle Their Bond Through Hypnotherapy | Delray Beach, FL

If you have been having a difficult time relating to your partner, feel at odds, are struggling with miscommunication, or have lost the spark you once shared, have you considered hypnotherapy? Couples counseling through hypnotherapy can be a great way for couples to improve their intimacy and mutual understanding, with the caveat that each person is willing to put in the work. Contrary to common misconception, hypnotherapy does not absolve the couple of the work necessary to achieve their shared goal. It makes it easier to do the necessary work! 

My strategic approach begins by understanding each person’s dedication to the relationship itself, their willingness to improve it, their commonalities, and their differences. Once I have gained a well-rounded understanding of each person’s perspective and goals, I design our sessions to bring the couple back together in a way that addresses the real issues, rather than simply breaking surface tension.

Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool in helping couples relax heightened defenses, recall positive memories, and build new bonds. Of course, this doesn’t come easily for most people – it requires the commitment of each person to do the work. However, with my guidance and support, you and your partner can rekindle your bond, and carry on stronger together.

If you would like to learn more about hypnotherapy for couples counseling or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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The Ways Hypnotherapy Can Help You Today | Boca Raton, FL

Life is difficult. Feelings of sadness, depression, relationship issues, and persistent physical pain are all parts of life. Addictions and problem habits are ways the unconscious mind establishes to deal with pain. Unfortunately, these coping mechanisms cause more problems. If you have previously sought therapy or medication for any of these things and haven’t achieved the results you were seeking, it may be time to consider hypnotherapy with an experienced specialist in this art. As a licensed, board-certified clinical psychologist specializing in hypnotherapy, I have helped thousands of people recover from depression, get relief from anxiety, manage persistent physical pain, overcome their smoking addiction, rekindle their connection with a partner, and lose weight for over 30 years.

Hypnotherapy is a useful tool for this therapy work especially when other means of intervention such as traditional talk therapy and medications have not helped enough. When we work together, I take time to understand you, your history, and your goals. Together we then map out a personalized treatment plan to address the things you seek to change. 

Our sessions will consist of accessing key aspects of your problems, exploring what factors maintain these problems, addressing feelings and thoughts, releasing old pain, envisioning improvement, improving distress tolerance, and promoting emotional regulation skills. 

Treatment goals include symptom reduction, skills acquisition, improved functioning, and reducing ineffective behaviors. Very specific therapy techniques I use include clarifying meaning, emphasizing behaviors for achieving goals, identifying and modifying irrational thoughts, resolving unconscious inner conflicts, identifying triggers and installing functional responses, imprinting motivational suggestions in the unconscious, and encouraging the use of relaxation, self-regulation, and self-hypnosis techniques. 

The result is you begin to feel empowered to navigate your life in a positive direction long after our work ends.

If you would like to learn more about what we can address through hypnotherapy or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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Hypnosis Can Aid Weight Control | Boca Raton, FL

If you struggle with your weight, it’s likely your willpower in the present is at odds with your imagination. When our perspective is centered around “I can’t eat this”, it actually fuels your desire for that food- it enhances desire which feeds the imagination. The unconscious mind does not distinguish between desire and action.

When you enter into hypnosis for weight management, our goal is to retrain the unconscious mind. It is our unconscious mind that influences our habitual, imagined, and desired actions. When we work together to retain your unconscious mind, we are essentially working to get you thinking “I want this healthy food” versus “I can’t eat the unhealthy food I crave”.

Through hypnosis, I can guide you to reprogram your unconscious mind. An initial consultation will allow me to understand who you are, your weight loss journey, your motivation for change, and any barrier to your ability to succeed. I then design a hypnosis plan specifically for you, so we can retrain the aspects of your unconscious that have been the biggest hindrance to your ability to lose weight and keep it off.

The Weight Reduction Hypnosis Program is designed to make it easy for you to replace your unhealthy food cravings with healthy eating habits. It is effective because the hypnotic suggestions I prepare for you are in the precise language your unconscious understands. I give you these individualized suggestions while you are “in hypnosis” and when you are “out of hypnosis” (in a slightly different form). Your unconscious recognizes these suggestions as so fitting and familiar, that it feels as if you gave these suggestions to yourself. This makes acting on them natural and easy.

If you would like to learn more about this practice or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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How Hypnotherapy Can Help You Quit Smoking | Boca Raton, FL

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Our subconscious controls our habits, and as such, that is where healing should begin. Hypnotherapy is an effective means of discovering your innermost relationship with smoking. Still, it cannot be accessed until the afflicted individual acknowledges their addiction and their desire to move forward. When the individual seeking respite from their habit and the clinician meet halfway, healing begins. All that remains is for the individual’s conscious and subconscious to interact so that the ability to quit smoking, stress less, and experience life without withdrawals may begin.

I have been working with cigarette-dependent patients for years and has developed a means of helping you to kick your habit in one visit. Here are the essential components anyone seeking to quit smoking needs before they begin hypnotherapy:

  • A compelling, emotionally valid reason
  • The effects of cigarettes on your health
  • The consequences of continuing the habit
  • The benefits of being a non-smoker
  • Stress and withdrawal management

Kicking your smoking habit is possible, you may just be attempting methods that don’t suit your needs or address underlying causes. The best results come from having a powerful individualized live session, however, I have authored the Best Stop Smoking With Hypnosis Program available for purchase here. 

If you would like to learn more about this practice or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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Understanding Hypnotic Regression Therapy | Delray Beach, FL

Consider for a moment that your mind is like the current, your subconscious is navigating obstacles while your conscious mind flows. It’s likely you aren’t even aware that your subconscious is exerting itself in this way- until things get out of hand.

If you are struggling to contain the emotional undercurrent; that is, if you are exhibiting self-sabotaging behaviors, and/ or have thoughts or feelings that you can’t break away from, it may be because your subconscious is churning. Hypnotic Regression Therapy or HRT helps us access the subconscious mind, understand the true nature of our thoughts and feelings, and work our way out of the cycle.

Essentially, this type of Hypnotic Regression Therapy focuses on the resolution of significant moments or events in our past that have begun to interfere with our mental and/or emotional wellness. Hypnosis is widely known as a means of tapping into our deep memories; those which we know happened but may be unable to recall. Believe it or not, these memories and experiences play a significant role in our daily lives. Conducted by a well-trained and competent hypnotherapist, hypnotic regression therapy will guide you to tap into your subconscious mind and recall the experiences your conscious mind might not remember. 

Hypnotic Regression Therapy should only be undertaken by a licensed mental health professional who has been trained in the use of clinical hypnosis and Hypnotic Regression Therapy specifically. Dr. Eimer is the co-author of several books on Hypnotic Regression Therapy. These are Ideomotor Signals for Rapid Hypnoanalysis: A How-To Manual by Ewin and Eimer (2006) and The Art of Hypnotic Regression Therapy: A Clinical Guide by Hunter and Eimer (2012). He also conducts workshops internationally for therapists on HRT.

If you would like to learn more about this practice or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.

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The Difference Between Sadness and Depression | Delray Beach, FL

There is a decisive difference between sadness and depression, but the two are often misconstrued and mixed up. About one in every 15 adults will be adversely affected by depression each year with obstacles such as Covid-19 tipping the scale.

Feelings of sadness occur when we lose something we need and care about such as a job or a partner. It is often associated with the loss of some aspect of one’s identity (e.g., a job, a personal relationship, the end of a life state). Feeling sad is a natural response to unfavorable circumstances and loss. Clinical depression on the other hand negatively affects how you think, feel, and act. Fortunately, feelings of sadness will pass in time, and depression is treatable.

If you are still wondering how to classify the way you are or have been feeling, here are some symptoms of depression to be aware of.

  • Feeling down or low for no apparent reason, lasting a week or two or longer.
  • Losing interest in the activities you enjoy.
  • Experience a change in appetite leading to weight gain or loss.
  • Have difficulty sleeping or experience the desire to sleep all day.
  • Feeling worn out or fatigued.
  • Feelings of guilt or unworthiness.
  • Having difficulty thinking, keeping focused, or making decisions.
  • Thinking about death or contemplating suicide.

It’s important to remember that life ebbs and flows, and that whether you are sad or depressed, there are several ways to overcome these feelings. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy or CBT is an evidence-based psychological treatment for clinical depression. When antidepressant medication is needed, combining medication and CBT can increase the effectiveness of both treatments. CBT teaches coping skills while meds alone do not. Often hypnotherapy can enhance the effectiveness of both of the above treatments. 

If you would like to learn more about my practice or would like to schedule a free consultation appointment, visit us online or call our office today at (561) 377-1039.

Dr. Eimer proudly serves patients in West Pam Beach, Wellington, Lake Worth, Boynton Beach, Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Deerfield Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and surrounding areas.